Ciao Amica Mia,
A couple of months ago my friend and colleague, Lisa Kneller, interviewed me on her Facebook live show, Unstuck: The Road to Reinvention. Lisa wanted me to share with the audience my story of how I went from being a misguided breakaway girl to a more, well let’s say, aware breakaway girl. She was curious what my four tips are to be a Breakaway Girl.
It was a fun and informative conversation and I wanted to share my breakaway tips with you today. Here’s what I’ve learned over the years – in order to be a Breakaway Girl or Guy, there are four essentials.
~You need to first be aware that you, your situation, your relationship, your thinking, whatever it is, needs to shift. At this point you might not know exactly what it is, but you’re aware that you feel off. You’re aware that you’ve arrived at a place where you can no longer ignore the pain, the constraints, the feeling that there has to be more to life – than simply more of the same.
It often feels like your clothes have shrunk. Everything feels tight, your breath ragged and short. As if you can’t wait to rip your clothes off and cloak yourself in luxurious silk.
Be Willing to Take a Walk on the Wild Side
~Becoming aware that an aspect of your life feels out of alignment is only the first step. You also need to be willing to look at your B.S limiters, and consequently what’s keeping you stuck in the muck of your story. When you take that next step, you’re delving into some deep interior work. I call it, taking a walk on the wild side.
It’s necessary to recognize a particular pattern or tendency that’s your unconscious fall back. The behaviors you revert to when you’re feeling under duress. It’s important for you to know that your habitual patterns arise even when you’re leveling up! When you’re progressing and making great strides is exactly when your little gremlins like to pop their heads up to make sure you’re paying attention.
I’ve learned that you absolutely need to be willing to have a conversation with your inner critic. Invite her to tea, like the Buddha did with his temptress, Mara. Even if that seems a little scary, your inner critic often has gems of wisdom to share. Summon the courage and curiosity to engage in a conversation with the voices in your head or I guarantee you nothing will shift.
~A Breakaway Girl needs to be coachable. We all need coaching in our lives. You do, Sally does and so do I! When you hire a coach, you’re taking a risk, sure. But more than that, you’re standing for yourself by being willing to invest in your personal growth. Whether it’s to expand your business, expand your impact, or expand your mind. Being coachable means you’re able to make a sincere commitment to your legacy self.
A coach helps you, in various ways, to honor your soul commitment. She supports and believes in your potential. A coach holds space and helps you remove the blinders that have been obscuring new possibilities. A coach provides structure in order for you to become self-accountable.
Also, a coach perceives your legacy self and holds you to that higher standard, championing you while you do the work.
Being coachable is your ability to implement the first two tips and then take action.
~First you become aware. Secondly you take a deeper look and dive into your inner landscape. Then you sync up with a coach you resonate with, or a good friend you trust that’s truthful and compassionate, and finally you take bold action.
Granted, taking bold action doesn’t guarantee a “win” every single time out of the gate. But taking action that’s threaded with awareness, the fruits of your inner work, and being mentored by someone who has walked the path before you, you’re able to move forward instead of staying stuck.
I don’t’ know about you, but staying stuck in the limiting stories I make up in my head is no longer an option.
When you consciously choose to work on and implement these breakaway strategies, you’ve earned the title Breakaway Girl! Or Guy.
I hope these Breakaway tips are helpful to you. Please share with me where you’re at in the process. It’s helpful to “brag” on yourself!
With love and appreciation, xoxo Paulette